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Who texts first more?
Add your WhatsApp chat and see who starts more of your conversations, month by month. Free and private.
Don't have the file? Export it in 30 seconds
iPhone
- Open the chat, tap his name
- Export Chat → Without Media
- Save to Files, then choose it here
Android
- Open the chat, tap ⋮ → More
- Export chat → Without media
- Save the file, then choose it here
Put the number in context
Starting fewer chats does not measure how much someone cares. Compare similar periods and remember calls, time together and messages outside this export. Use a change as a reason to talk, not as a score for the relationship.
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Questions
What counts as starting a conversation?
Whoever sends the first message after 6+ hours of silence. A “good morning” after a normal night's sleep isn't counted, and photos, voice notes and calls count as reaching out.
Is my chat uploaded?
No. The tool reads your chat in your browser. Nothing is sent to our servers.
Does it matter who texts first?
On its own, not much. It matters when it's lopsided for months, or when it changes: going from half your conversations to one in five means more than the number itself.
Want more than one number? The losing interest analysis looks at replies, initiation, questions and plans together.